It feels good when we don’t take things personally in relationships. We enjoy the feelings of inner freedom and goodwill when we feel compassion for our struggling partners when their behavior misses the mark. We enjoy the feelings of internal stability when we are undisturbed by our partners’ emotional dysregulation…

I’ve noticed a lovely trend in the emails coming into my inbox at this time of year reminding me to take it easy. The feedback is to go at your own pace. Listen to your inner feedback regarding your boundaries. Slow down. Rest! Remember that time is a construct. Don’t…

Angus and our youngest daughter got our Christmas tree last week. I purchased all of the girls stocking stuffers way ahead of time. Even though our daughters are young adults, we all love the Christmas morning ritual of them opening gifts in their pillowcases. Angus’s family used pillowcases rather than…

Spiritual teachings suggest that we are all beautiful, unique expressions of one source of life force. Each of us is an emanation of that divine light. That essence cannot be understood but is felt and recognized by qualities such as love, joy, peace, and well-being. This essence is not unique…

In a recent Rewilders’ Community webinar, we were asked to speak on death. We had a poignant conversation with many sharing their experiences related to death, grief, near-death experiences, and the lessons learned. It made me think of the Latin phrase Memento Mori, which means to “remember that you must…

Empathy is being able to understand what someone else is feeling or being able to see a situation from another person’s point of view. The capacity to have empathy for another is essential for the success of intimate relationships. This is an obvious statement, but it is easier said than…

Angus and I recently saw how to be even kinder to each other. We are experiencing a new level of patience and understanding between us. This happened after a challenging conversation where we both took what the other person was saying personally and felt hurt. But we are grateful for…

When we want to be understood the most by our partner, we often behave in ways that make it hard for us to be understood. It is not our hurt that makes relationships hard. It is how we defend ourselves when we are hurt that leads to conflict and discord…

I often forget that I am living in the feeling of my thinking. In fact, I can just plain forget that I am thinking and listening to my internal narrative all day long. This invisible narrative is frequently one of pressure. When I buy into it, I feel an inner…